IDEAS FOR ANNIVERSARY “GET-AWAYS”
The key word here is memorable. Look for opportunities to get out of the rut and routine for a couple of hours or a couple of days. A fresh setting and uncustomary activities can lift your time together out of the mundane and weave it into the stuff of memory.
- Find a quaint “bed and breakfast” establishment in your town or in a neighboring community.
- Look into staying at a rustic lodge at a national park or national monument.
- Forsake the “friendly skies” and take a train trip to another city for a night or two.
- If you live in the country, spend a weekend in the city and enjoy the lights. If you live in the city, spend a weekend in the country and enjoy the stars!
- Take a long walk along a scenic trail.
- Make a memory — and enjoy some laughter — by trying something neither of you have tried before: horseback riding, a cruise in a riverboat or ferry, exploring a cave, going up in a hot-air balloon, riding in a dune buggy along the beach, attending a dinner theater, renting a tandem bicycle or. . . .?
- Arrange a date called “Old Haunts,” in which you and your spouse revisit the restaurants, theaters, and school settings that were favorites during your courtship.
IDEAS FOR ANNIVERSARY CONVERSATION STARTERS
The watch-words here are positive, non-threatening, and forward-looking. This is an evening to enjoy! Steer away from topics that raise blood pressure, resurrect old arguments, stir up bitterness, or slog through the murk of unhappy memories. The object is to enjoy one another’s company while moving your relationship in a positive, hopeful direction.
What two or three things would you love to see develop in our relationship in the coming year?
What are three major goals you would like to accomplish this year?
On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being highest), where are you in your spiritual life? How might we better encourage one another in this area?
What are three things God has taught you over the past couple of years?
What friendships would we like to foster as a couple?
What one thing could I do more of this year to serve you?
What could we do to encourage another couple (spiritually, financially, emotionally) during the coming year?
How can we find more time to communicate, day by day, week by week?
Reflecting on this past year . . .
what has been the most memorable experience you’ve had? How about the most fun or most silly? What is the best book you’ve read and why?
Did your family have “traditions” as you were growing up? What was your favorite? What family traditions might we establish?
What have you learned that’s new about me?
Are you satisfied with the time commitments you’ve made during this past year? What would you change if you could change?
If you could visit any five countries or cities in the whole world (and had the money to go in style!) which would they be and why?
What is one thing you always wished you knew how to do — and is it really too late to learn?
Don’t let the enjoyment end with this celebration! Get out a calendar and schedule three special weekends together during the upcoming year; set dates, places, and discuss babysitting options, if necessary.
LOVE FOR A LIFETIME
Building A Marriage That Will Go The Distance
by: Dr. James Dobson
Each year God provides us with an opportunity to set aside one day to focus on our marriages; these milestone days are called anniversaries. Whether it’s your first or fiftieth, let me encourage you to make this occasion truly memorable. With just a little bit of planning and imagination, you can experience a day, an evening, or a weekend you’ll always remember. Admittedly, however, some of us are less gifted in the area of “creativity” than others. With that in mind, I’ve included a few ideas to stimulate your own thinking and planning. You’ll be amazed at the dividends a brief investment of careful thought will bring to this most important human relationship in your life.
Dr. James Dobson
(“Focus on the Family”)